Parents are getting a divorce…
My parents are getting a divorce and I really miss my dad because I live with my mom. What can I do to get them back together because I think they still love each other?
– Tiffanie 12, PA
Just from Juliette says:
One of the most important things that you can do during this time is talk to your mom about what is going on. Since you are currently living with your mom, you have to tell her how this is upsetting you and how you really miss your dad. Maybe you can spend weekends with your dad or go out to dinner with him every Wednesday night to catch up. Divorce is really hard to deal with and I’m sure that all you want is your parents to get back together. Like you said, your parents may still love each other, but there could have been other problems causing them to divorce. You just have to talk about it because keeping everything inside could cause more problems in the future.
(an elementary school psychologist)
Divorce can be one of the most difficult things to go through since your life may change in many different ways that you don’t want it to. It’s very normal to miss the parent who no longer lives with you, even if you have visits from time to time. It’s also very common for kids who experience their parents’ divorce to have a “dream” or “fantasy” about their parents getting back together someday and getting back to how things once were. Divorce is a decision between your parents and they are the only people who could decide to get back together – I’m sorry to say that this usually doesn’t happen once people get divorced. Your parents decided to divorce for many reasons but the most important one is that, even though they may still even love each other, being married or living in the same house wasn’t working for them. It might be a good idea for you to talk about all of the confusing feelings that this situation can bring – talk to an adult you trust (example: aunt or uncle, teacher, school counselor or psychologist) so you don’t have to deal with this alone. Good luck.
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