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Online Dating: Writing an Effective Profile

Online Dating: Writing an Effective Profile

When someone asked Willie Sutton, the notorious bank robber, “Willie, why do you rob banks?” He replied, “Because that’s where the money is!”

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Well, online is where the men are. Millions of single men are online. And you’re only looking for one!  Here are some recent statistics:

  
Total number of single people in the U.S. 54 Million
Total number of people in the U.S. who have tried online dating 40 Million
Average length of courtship for marriages that met online 18.5 Months
Average length of courtship for marriages that met offline 42 Months
Percent of male online dating users 52.4 %
Percent of female online dating users 47.6 %
Percent of marriages in the last year in which the couple met on a dating site 17 %
Percent of current committed relationships that began online 20 %
Source: Reuters, Herald news, PC World, Washington Post, date verified: 6/18/13  
It’s important to remember that online dating isn’t a sprint; it’s a marathon. Just like dating offline, it can take a long time to find Mr. Right. You have to be patient and persistent. And rather than focus on the number of unsuccessful dates, consider: Are you meeting interesting people? What are you learning about men, about dating or about yourself? Are you sharpening your dating skills?
 
My best advice for writing an effective online Profile:
 
Your goal is to distinguish yourself. Your Profile needs to be an upbeat, intriguing description of yourself.The screen name and tagline, along with the headshot are the first things a man sees. They say a lot about you. In your main write up, your goal is to tell what is unique about you.
 
1.  The most important element in your Profile is your first sentence because it will determine if your matches will keep reading. Be specific, not generic, by writing about things that are true of millions of people such as: I’m kind. I’m smart. I’m cheerful. Instead of, “I love the outdoors.” How about, “I love walking my dog in Central Park after work, “ or “I love to sit in my garden and read.” And rather than, “I love movies,” how about, ‘My favorite movie of all time is “Sleepless in Seattle, and I’m also a George Clooney fan.”
2.  Show. Don’t tell. Instead of saying, “I love to travel,” describe a few sensual details of the best trip you’ve ever taken with what you saw or what you ate or what you felt. Replace “I have a good sense of humor” with something witty. Focus on the present. Don’t tell your entire history. Leave some mystery. Exude confidence. Confidence is sexy, but don’t sound too cocky.
 
3.  Spell check for spelling and grammar and no grammar shortcuts.
 
4.  Be vulnerable, but without bearing your soul. Perhaps by telling a short story about an embarrassing yet endearing moment.
 
5.  Last line. Your last sentence is your final impression. End on a strong note that will inspire someone to drop you a note. For example, on Ivydate.com, the last question is, “I like to make a difference in the world by…” Don’t write a skimpy Profile and be sure to answer all the questions on the site. The more someone knows about you and likes what he reads the better.
 
6.  Don’t use “don’t” and don’t mention your ex in your Profile. For example, if you say, “I hate baggage,” it will sound like you have some. Be positive and optimistic: A sunny Profile will always attract more readers and probably more men interested in meeting you.  
 
If finding love is a priority, take the leap and try dating online. There is no better way for singles of all ages to be proactive about their search for love. As your own successful matchmaker, you have two important responsibilities: First, tell everyone you meet offline that you are single and looking for someone wonderful, in case they know someone they think you might like to meet; Second, to be online with your best photo and unique, attractive Profile.
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Written by Peggy Wolman, Matchmaker

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